Few people are lucky enough to have 2 weddings, to the same
person, within 6 weeks of each other!
We loved our American wedding.
It was truly one of the most enjoyable and blessed days of our
lives. It was special to celebrate
together with both of our families and so many close friends. We're grateful, most of all, that Christ was
the center of the wedding ceremony and God received the glory. It was a fantastic weekend that we will
always cherish.
Our Kenyan wedding couldn't have been more different from our
American wedding, but we loved it just the same!
The first thing to understand about Kenyan (and most African)
weddings is that you have a Wedding Committee.
The wedding committee is a group of some of your closest friends who
will be the ones to ultimately plan your wedding! While this sounds scary to anyone with
control issues… it's a fantastic concept! We selected our Wedding Committee back in April. Joe chose some of his closest and most loyal
friends; 15 in total. We met with the
committee only twice to share our desires for the celebration. They listened to our ideas and then planned
everything for us; EVERYTHING! It was
fabulous! We highly recommend this
concept be accepted by Western culture!
We had an amazing wedding committee who represented over 5 different
churches, 4 NGOs, 3 schools, and 2 sports teams from around the Mbita
community.
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Team Pete Wedding Committee |
We contributed about 1/4 of the budget and the committee raised
the remaining funds needed. To an American, this sounds inappropriate; your friends and the community shouldn't
have to pay for your wedding. However,
in a community-centered and interdependent culture, your friends and community
are eager to join with you and express their love and support. After all, every wedding is a community
event. The proof lies in the fact that
we personally invited about 350 people to our wedding; yet around 600 were in
attendance!!
We had no wedding rehearsal the day before. Joe and I never saw a program or schedule of
events before the day started. We simply
knew we were not only along for the ride, but we were the main attraction!
We couldn't have planned it more perfectly ourselves. It was an
absolutely beautiful celebration. There
was much praise and worship, plenty of Kenyan flavor, and a whole lot of
dancing! Per the recommendation of our
wedding committee, we needed three key elements for people to feel as if
they've experienced a true Kenyan wedding:
1. cake
2. meat
3. flower
girls
So… we had 7 cakes, we killed
(and ate) an entire cow and we had 8 flower girls!
The special occasion was held at CGA on the basketball court
(fitting since Joe left his career as a college basketball coach to move to
Kenya). Three large canopies were set up to provide shade from the hot
equatorial sun. The wedding was scheduled to start at 9:00 am, and thanks
to some American influence, it only started one hour late; as opposed to most
Kenyan weddings which start 3 or more hours late.
There was no bridal party, except our 8 adorable flower girls; all CGA students. The entrance of the flower girls, who escorted the bride, consisted of traditional Luo "marching" which is similar to a slow shuffle. The guests were overjoyed to see the bride in her original white wedding dress; just like the American wedding! After the bride's arrival, the Worship team led everyone in praising God with music and dancing, including a kanga line and a song that required playing an air guitar, air trumpet and air flute. (Strange? Nope- we were prepared for anything.) We stated our same wedding vows from our American wedding and the ceremony ended with a big kiss, and an even bigger cheer by all the guests!
The Pastor gave a fitting sermon about love and marriage, and
used us as an example to the young people to wait on God’s timing. An
African wedding is never complete without entertainment. The CGA dancers
presented three spirited routines to different songs. Another local
primary school presented a traditional Luo dance with brightly-colored
authentic Luo costumes. After more praise and worship, and more dancing,
the official cake cutting took place followed by the presentation of gifts from
the guests. There was a long arduous
photo session, and finally, everyone enjoyed rice and meat with a cold soda.
We were very grateful that many special friends were able to
attend. 12 of Joe's friends from Nairobi
made the 8-hour journey to Mbita to celebrate with us and 3 of Daneen's close
friends from Uganda even made it over.
It was extra special having these people travel from far to be with us!
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Friends from Nairobi |
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Friends from Uganda |
It was an incredibly fun, blessed and colorful celebration. We loved every bit of it! Yet, the best part of all was the
opportunity for our marriage to be a testimony to the students and community of God's abounding love and of how it's worth being patient to wait for His very best!
After such a wonderful celebration there's surely no denying
that Team Pete has arrived in Mbita.
A few more pictures....
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Wardrobe change!!
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Suba Lakers |
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CGA Alumni Students |